Thursday, March 21, 2013

Should you be worried about a friend/loved one involved in an MLM situation?


EVALUATION CHECKLIST
Change of prior commitments
1. Education.
“He had one term to complete to get his college diploma and he walked away. We can’t believe it! No amount of rational argument will convince him to finish.”
2. Career / Goals
“She was planning to become a doctor. Now she stands on street corners recruiting new members.”
3. Significant relationships
“They were going to be married and he broke off the engagement.”
Financial
1.Surrendering Assets
“She gave all her money to the group and her stereo and her car!”
“He is using his life savings on cult sponsored classes and events.”
2. Dependency Issues
“He has to ask the group for bus fare. He has no money of his own even though he works twenty hours a day.”
Radical Personality Change
1. Physical appearance
Change in clothes, hair, weight, diet
Spaced out expression, glassy stare
2. Personality
Change in speech patterns, facial expressions, or mannerisms
Decreased sense of humor
Secretive, evasive, or defensive behavior
Judgmental attitude towards family members
Fanatical always proselytizing
Change from extrovert to introvert or vice versa
Change from analytical to magical-thinking
Change from lazy to industrious
Change in level of honesty
Lack of interest in former hobbies
3. Personal habits
Change from irresponsible to responsible (and vice versa)
Change from sloppy to clean (and vice versa)
Change from tardy to punctual (and vice versa)
4. Communication style
Evasiveness
Defensiveness
Difficulty in communication
Use of “buzzwords,” canned speeches, “tape-loops”
5. Relationships
Change in key relationships
Family and friends preached to as though they need to be saved
Pressure for money for personal reasons or group donations
Loss of contact with family and friends (in person, via telephone, mail)
Decreased physical contact fewer or no hugs and kisses
Self imposed isolation
Family events (unattended or unacknowledged births, birthdays, baptisms, Confirmations, Bar/ Bas Mitzvahs, engagements, weddings, anniversaries, illnesses, deaths)
Majority of time spent with new group or organization
6. Philosophy
Change in political beliefs
Change in religious beliefs
Change in current education (changed from full to part time, changed major, dropped out of school)
7. Career
Abruptly ends career
Gives away money
Spends large sums of money
Radical change of goals
8. Medical
Ignores symptoms
Doesn’t go to doctor
Ignores advice of doctors
Goes to free clinics
9. Change in living conditions
Move to new residence (group house, commune)
Move to new location
Move in with “strangers”
Health
1. Is (s)he eating properly?
2. Is (s)he getting enough sleep?
3. Does (s)he have health insurance?
4. Would (s)he receive good medical care if sick or injured?

Chapter 4 EVALUATING THE SITUATION, RELEASING THE BONDS Empowering People to Think for Themselves! (as cited in http://freedomofmind.com/Services/WarningSigns.php)

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